How to motivate yourself?

What is motivation? Sheer focus? Staying determined? Being confident? It’s more than that. Motivation is a combination of a whole bunch of things usually including some type of fear or intense desire. After all motivation battle is nothing but your head telling you “I think I can,” “I think I still can,” and “I’m doing it”. Because of that, so to concise it we can say motivation is basically developing confidence, staying focused, and maintaining direction and which will help you to achieve your desired result.

We all face lack of motivation in our life, we can’t pay proper focus to the work we are doing and hence we are not satisfied from our work. So we are going to present some tips on how to motivate yourself.

*                                Don’t think in a negative way:

We’re all guilty of thinking in the negative instead of the affirmative. We’re busy not doing not wanting things. That’s fine and normal, but there is no action associated with not wanting something. You can’t decide to do something because you don’t want another. That’s not how it works. That wll not lead you anywhere. Negative thoughts keep you unmotivated. It’s draining and exhausting. It keeps you in a state of perpetual worry instead of action.

*                                Define your goal and your plan to achieve it:

Now that we know that you are thinking positive, you gotta know what you are getting positive about it. For example instead of saying “I don’t want to be homeless, poor” you can say “I want to be financially secure”. Now start planning to achieve what you desire. Pen down your desires and the ways you can see to achieve it. If you wish you can achieve it if you stay motivated towards your goal.

*                    Keep it just to one at a time:

If you have a ton of things on your to-do list, sometimes it becomes daunting and you end up putting the list away and "tackling it later." But if you have one thing on that list of yours, that's it. That's doable. It's doable and you can focus on it -- spreading yourself thin over a dozen won't do you or your goals justice.You can't focus yourself if you're not focused on a specific goal. Break it down into small pieces as much as possible

 *                                Make it fun.

Straight up, doing something you flat out despise won't be something you keep up with. The second you can drop it like a bad habit, you will. For that reason, whatever you're doing -- be it saving up money for that new car or losing 15 pounds -- you gotta make it enjoyable. The more enjoyable it is, the more you'll do it. The more you'll do it, the better you'll get at it. The better you get at it, the quicker the end result will come.

*                                Set rewards.

 Let's be honest: results just don't come soon enough. It takes years to make money from a new business, it takes months to reach weight loss goals, and it takes a virtual lifetime to be happy with yourself. That's just about the opposite of instant gratification. To overcome this unfortunate fact of life, give yourself rewards. Life sure isn't going to do it for you, so you might as well will.

*                                Keep the glass half full, not half empty. 

When we think about something we want, a necessary part of that is realizing we don't have it. That can turn into a whirlwind of negativity, starting us down the path of self-pity, lethargy, and ending in a box of w(h)ine. Don't go there! Think about what you do have, what you're grateful for. Only then can you make what you have better.

*                                Use visualization.

  For a few minutes each day, sit down and visualize obtaining your goal. Visualize having it. Being it, doing it, achieving it, whatever. What does it feel like? After the few minutes are up, how do you feel?  Make sure to use all your senses. What do you taste, smell, see, feel, and hear? What is life truly like? What adjectives can you use to describe this new life of yours? Work in the details to make it as clear as possible. Where are you? What are you doing? What are you wearing? How do you look? Who is with you?

If you are motivated and focused nothing can restrict you… have a bright future ahead.

BY SURAJ GUPTA

EDITOR AT CHARTERED BLOOD

The novelty lies within "monotony"

Thank you for the appreciations and heart-warming gestures being shown regarding my previous blog. It motivated me to write this one.

 So today, I am going to tell you about something that is a part of our lives i.e. monotony. Let’s see.

“There’s a story of a man and his wife, who were living a very sound and sorted life. The man was an accountant and the wife was a home maker. He used to leave at 8 in the morning for office and at 8 in night, at his home. His wife used to clean up the house like a hotel, everything at its place. He used to wait for his husband and then they used to have dinner together. So one can imagine how normal life they were living. And one day, this thought of “monotony” in their lives made the man frustrated and self-flagellated,   but being generous, he didn’t show up this thing to his wife and being plain , he had his dinner that night and went for a sleep. Next day, when he was coming back to his home from his office, he thought of giving a surprise to his wife by orchids and chocolates. So he bought those and while heading towards his home, he had a grin on his face and was expecting something that would amuse him more, but when he reached home, he was shocked!! Flowers and chocolates that he held in his hands were, in amaze, fell on the floor and what he saw was unexpected! There was no one at his home and all the things that used to be at their places, were on the floor and the whole thing was so messed up which made him anxious about what happened! He was sweating bullets in the chilly night and wandering here and there in search of her woman, he fell on the floor. When he went to his bedroom he was looking here and there and then he saw a letter, a letter from his wife,  “I am going to my mom’s house as she had an heart attack and your phone wasn’t reachable , I will be back within a week “ . He got a bit relaxed after he went through the note and he called up his wife to know about her well-being. She answered the call and said sorry for leaving the house in abruption. The man got relaxed and satisfied with the thought that everything is fine.

 The thing happened that day was beyond his thought and his “monotonous” life but he learnt a thing that monotony may be boring, but somewhere it is blessed.

We people want to make our lives as adventurous as the life of famous people but we should be knowing the value of contentment and the value of being normal. Every person wants to lead a life that is full of fun, but we often miss the things that helps in making fun i.e. our friends. Just like being friends with people for long time doesn’t lead to boredom then why not the life which we are being gifted. We should know the value of being sober and how does it lead you to a better life, you will get to know by yourself.

Love your life , your people , yourself!

VANSH WASSAN, 

EDITOR AT CHARTERED BLOOD

Humility in one's self

I would go with a stereotypical fiction, but it’s fascinating to learn from a story too!!

Just like we did in our childhood, we tend to read stories that made us feel proactive and happy, though they were fiction, but we felt like they happened in reality.

Those were the stories, this is going to be a story about something that we need to think upon.

“Once upon a time there was a very proficient, accomplished king of a state, who had a very good rapport with his people in state. One day, his friend, the king of other state, came to meet him up for general discussions and after those long hours of general talks, they had a dinner, but the king didn’t know what his friend was up to. He came up there to kill the king, just to conquer the state. And so, he planned every activity to make that thing happen and yes he did. He lit up the fire in the curtain of the king’s room, but fortunately the king was being escaped from this evil act by his commander of army. When he came to know about the one who was behind all that thing, i.e. his friend, he decided to punish him with the death penalty. So, as the proceedings happened, he was “hanged till death”. Although the king didn’t like what he was doing, he ended up being sad. When he was asked about the burial, he refused for a funeral that time to which hand of “that” commander raised. He asked the king, “Your majesty, with due respect, I would like to ask something” to which the king allowed him to ask. “Your majesty, what would you do if you face a failure in future? Would you be sad thereafter the whole life or would you take up a lesson and cover up your failure with a success?” asked the sanguine commander. The king, without giving a second thought, came up with the latter one as his option. “I got my answer, your majesty” said the commander with a smile on his face. The king then asked him that why did he ask that question, to which the commander replied “Your majesty, I wanted to tell you that, we are not the ones who won’t respect someone’s tradition or culture. Regarding the burial that was being discussed before, I wanted to suggest you that the remains of your friend should be buried with due respect and it should not prejudice the ethics of our culture. I wanted to tell our people that, though our friends betrayed us, but we won’t let our virtuousness go drain. I wanted to tell that, though we have enemies in our friends, but that doesn’t mean that we don’t respect their morals”. The king got amazed by his answer and he appreciated him with lots of incentives. And the king did the funeral session for his friend cum enemy and compensate the loss of the state of his friend by taking over the state with all the responsibilities.

Now thinking why did I tell this story? To make you know that people who are good, will be the same whatever happens to them. And if they don’t want to be, they could become the same by the people like the commander acted for the king. The king was a very kind hearted person, so without a second thought in his mind, he did what his commander suggested him to do.

 We people are being tested, judged and the cycle goes on. You don’t be even knowing that some would instantly judge you by your eye contact!

Never be afraid of someone’s judgement because they won’t be thinking what you do and won’t be suffering what you from. You have to prove them that you are going to do what you want to. You are different than others. What the king did was nothing less than a courtesy towards the culture from which he belong to and his friend did.

Don’t let that goodness drain just because someone betrayed you. You know what’s more important than earning respect from others? It’s the respect that you earn from yourself i.e. self-respect.

VANSH WASSAN, 

EDITOR AT CHARTERED BLOOD